​Both of you constantly fight without making up or finding the least solution to your problems. You hardly step out together and you can go for days without contacting each other or talking if you live together.

All these are signs that your relationship is greatly strained and it’s either you breakup or keep being miserable.

Catherine Donaldson-Evans of SheKnows lists a few signs that your relationship may be at the brink of a breakup:

1. You don’t want to be together as much anymore: If you’ve lost interest in being with each other and spending time together, that’s a common red flag that your relationship might be on the verge of a split, according to Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., a psychotherapist known as “Dr. Romance” and the author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences.


2. You’ve lost interest in your conversations with each other: Not so excited about hearing what your guy has to say these days and having trouble getting him to listen to you too? Do your discussions with him bore you or are you having trouble paying attention when you talk to each other? That’s a bad sign for your future and could mean you’re on the brink of a breakup, according to Tessina.

3. Sex has gone down the drain: If one or both of you has significantly less interest in sex with each other than you used to, or the sex has stopped entirely, that’s a telltale sign that you two are in serious trouble.

4. You’re both moody and irritable a lot of the time: If your relationship is causing you grief and regularly affecting your moods in a bad way, then the end might be near. But too often, couples mistake their own depression or unhappiness about other areas of their lives for unhappiness with their partners and blame the relationship and their significant other for all their misery.

5. You don’t want to talk about it: If neither of you feels like discussing your problems and trying to fix things — like, ever — then that’s a big red flag your relationship is about to end. It means you’ve both given up and just can’t be bothered doing what it takes to save your love from ruin.

6. One of you is stifling or controlling the other: Many people are blindsided when their partners suddenly tell them it’s over. They don’t see that they played a part by trying to control or impose their will on the other person, oblivious to the damage it was doing to the relationship. That’s always a recipe for disaster. And it can be one of the most difficult signs to pick up on, according to Raymond.

7. You refuse to meet in the middle on anything: “The most important thing is how a couple repairs the tears in the relationship when things go wrong,” says Raymond. “It’s when they stand their ground about having their rigid expectations met that the relationship is more likely to end — in that both go their separate ways.”

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